Maximizing Emotional Well Being

What Needs to Change So You Can Change

emotional wellnessIt’s no surprise the study of mental health is highly subjective. How to define or measure it has become a highly contested subject. The broad spectrum of symptoms have been referenced to as illnesses, disorders, genetic predispositions, unresolved traumatic events, inadequate coping skills, chemical imbalances, nutritional deficiencies and others. Diagnosis is often inaccurate or incomplete and the labels given for mental and emotional reactions often pigeon hole those affected into unsatisfying boxes.

Those suffering from prolonged anxieties, obsessions or other negative thought patterns seldom care about continued scientific conflicts unless they can be directly applied to the discomforts they experience. All they want is for the distress to stop. They don’t want to sift through endless piles of information which too often creates more stress or confusion.

Social stigmas and professional misunderstandings contribute to unhealthy ideas

  • Old ideas are taught and embraced long after they are disproved
  • Disagreement exists in the scientific and medical community on how to interpret data
  • Political pressures push agendas benefiting certain groups but not the general public
  • The medias need to sensationalize data paints an incomplete picture
  • Advertising spins misleading messages.

What depletes emotional well being?

The exact causes for excessive stress, pressure, obsessions, depression, anxiousness, and prolonged negativity can be many. But ultimately it boils down to some aspect of the persons ability to effectively process ongoing data, the relationships they have with themselves, their experiences and other people is being compromised.

Everyone can influence their status of their emotional well being when they access useful perspectives, are given the tools to change and the guidance to get past sticking points.

Taking a chance to change

Most people have the ability to work through minor issues or temporary set-backs But there can be a fine line between what one person defines as minor and what another feels is overwhelming. Prolonged or serious emotional and mental health challenges are not to be taken lightly. When someone is stuck deep within their own mental processes, in painful perspectives of relating to the world, professional assistance is still the quickest approach to facilitate change.

Many don’t want to believe they have problems, after all some parts of their life are working, they still have good qualities, their heart is in the right place. Yet they operate at sub-optimal level of existence hoping things will get better.

How Does One Increase Mental and Emotional Well Being?

When seeking intervention, start by picking an approach you can be comfortable with. Some people prefer face to face interactions, others group sessions and these days many are comfortable changing in the familiar setting of their home and doing phone sessions.  The professional you work with is guiding you on your journey to coping more effectively, and while good communications is vital, the therapist or counselor should take the lead, that is why you are working with them.

Overcome OCD and Anxiety Disorders

Those with OCD or other anxiety disorders often find it difficult to pursue outside help. It can be embarrassing to talk about or the subject matter feels overwhelming.This is one of the reasons many use medication as the primary form of intervention. Some find it useful, but it is not the only approach and not always the best form of treatment.

The majority of those suffering from OCD or anxiety can take control of their own well being when they are allowed to shift how they process emotions, become more mindful in their perspectives, learn to minimize sensitivities and find better ways of dealing with adversity and stress.

Those most open to seeking help and making changes in themselves typically have the greatest the ability to influence their states of mind and emotional well being. Those hesitant are often skeptical. They have their reasons and they are usually based in fears or incomplete and misunderstood data, even when it is well researched.

For those not satisfied with the quality of their life, luckily things can change. For those who would like to get past old problems without medication, it is possible

Nothing in life is set in stone, including how you feel or respond to the world. If you want something to change, you have to take the first step. Waiting for things to change on their own can be a difficult and lonely journey to take. This includes those who would like to:

Every problem offers a solution and change is possible if you are open to finding it; know where to look, are willing to take a few steps outside your comfort zone and suspend preset ideas of how things have to be. Enjoy navigating the site and feel free to leave comments at the bottom any page you interact with.


  1. … what if you aren’t ready to do these things.
    I’m repressing a lot. I detach all the time and can’t think. It effects my life in great ways and in all ways. I’ve had years of therapy and they all keep telling me the same thing and yet I get no help. I just want some ability to function so I can take care of myself financially( I detach in a learning situations out of anxiety because a learning scenario is what was used to initiate my abuse when I was young, so it triggers that fear in me making finding a job and going to school extremely difficult ). I had a flash back initially that helped me to believe I went through some of the abuse I’ve experienced in my life. The rest I remember and it was horrible.
    What could I do to aliviate or reduce my detachment issue so I can continue learning, I truly want to go to school, or at least train. I’ve already done EMDR. My counsellor said it doesn’t work on my cause I’m not ready.

    • There is an ecology to change work. It requires finding the real issues holding the pain or undesired patterns in place (these can quite often be hidden or outside the awareness of the person experiencing them and sometimes the therapist), understanding the existing patterns the person finds comfort in and having a real outcome to move towards. That outcome requires at least 2 steps, one releasing the pain and second having having a more functional way of dealing with what caused the pain.
      Many therapies only deal with release. That may not be enough for intense discomforts. For some, the change can come quickly, but long term patterns may require extra time.
      I can’t comment on whether or not you are ready to change. I don’t think you can either and one therapist opinion is not the end all of what you are capable of. Like all therapies, EMDR has limitations. It can help many but no therapy works for everyone everytime. As long as you are getting results from your therapist, however you measure that, stay. When you are no longer getting results, try someone else

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