Phone Consultations
Sessions and Assistance Right in the Comfort of Your Own Home
Many clients seeking help cannot find the kind of therapists they desire locally For some . office visits are difficult to schedule into their busy lifestyle. Designed Thinking offers an alternative to these situations, with our long distance Personal Success Consultations. These scheduled sessions give clients the freedom to avoid traffic, rising gas prices, conflicting time schedules, missed work, and going to unfamiliar places.
Clients Tend to Stay With Phone Therapy Consultations Longer Than Person to Person Office Visits
Researchers from Northwestern University’s Feinberg School of Medicine studied telephone-administered therapy and found more people felt reassurance in using them than office visits. This meant they found working through issues over the phone to be more effective and comforting.
Phone consultations are perfect for those who would rather deal with personal issues in complete confidentiality and security of their own environment. Today phone consultations are helping more and more people as a highly effective means for personal and professional change. Ideal for those with time constraints, living outside major metropolitan areas, handicapped, suffering from agoraphobia, traveling fears or social anxiety. Many just prefer the convenience of phone counseling to traditional face-to-face sessions.
The idea a counselor must be physically present to achieve success is simply not true. In fact, we’ve discovered we can assist people over the phone that never would have had the ability or will power to come in for one-on-one consultations. For many, it is already embarrassing enough to have a problem. Talking face to face with someone else can be intimidating. Phone consultations offer a viable alternative for those seeking help.
About Our Services
At Designed Thinking we have always offered free 15 minute phone consultations. We are not however a hotline for emergencies or traumas. Our phone consultations are offered to those unsure about their current situations, about what they think they know, about options they have or who just want to find out more information to assist them to make useful choices. This is especially true from those suffering from OCD, anxiety disorders, or suffering from mental or emotional abuse.
Reach us at 866-718-9995. We answer calls in the order they come in. If we are with clients and your call is routed to our answering service, please leave your name, number and good time for us to call you back. We promptly return calls as soon as possible during normal business hours.
I have been suffering from anxiety and obesessive thinking for the past 4 years. I tried CBT and hypnosis, the CBT worked for a while but didn’t fully cure me. I live in Ireland…. do you work with people outside the USA??
We most certainly have worked with clients in other parts of the world, though the time difference sometimes becomes problematic. It will all come down to the flexibility of your schedule.
Also OCD is a disorder not an illness. Successfully stopping the process of OCD possible. But not it will not happen by fixing or curing you or your obsessions. Think of it as making needed changes in your neurology that more effectively allow you to process thoughts and emotions. When the underlining neurologically patterns you’ve operated from change, your obsessions will find resolution
My wife and I, were at a wine tasting with another couple, after 1 glass of wine worth of tasters, our friends invited us to go to Idyllwild with them this Summer. So I mentioned amongst friends that my daughter was finishing high school and will have moved away to her Mom’s in Arizona to go to college. They asked how I felt about it. I said I will miss her, but I’m also excited for my freedom. My wife (my daughters step-mom) acknowledged her excitement too, but then says, “and then when his mother is dead it will be even better.” I looked at her in disbelief and just got really quiet. We were all having fun and then all of a sudden, that came out and this uncomfortable silence lingered. I got real quiet after that. Afterwards, when we got to the car, she apologized immediately and said she didn’t mean it and that she was really, really sorry. I told her that her statement really hurt me and that I would never even think of saying something like that about her family. She asked me to please forgive her and so I did…a couple of times. Then on the way home I mentioned that my daughters Mom was not going to be buying her Prom dress for her as what was thought to be originally planned by my daughter and her Mom. And we got into a heated argument about how I spoil her and that I should not be spending more than $100 on a dress for her. My thought was 100-300…you just never know. Anyway I was still holding onto my anger about what she said.
This really hurt me. I’ve been hurting inside now for 3 days and I’m having trouble thinking about anything else. I love my wife and I know I apologized but I’m still hurt and angry and I think to myself, “WOW, how could she be so heartless, why did I marry this person?”
Do I need to just let this dissipate?
Hi
When we get hurt, it is easy to get caught up on that which created the pain. Whether you should let this go or figure out something else depends. The question to ask yourself is “have there been other signs indicating some larger problem that needs to be addressed?” Is this an isolated event or an ongoing problem? If it is isolated, then let it go. Who knows what else was going on in her mind at the time at the time.
If this is not the first time she has put forth an inappropriate comment or action, you may want to sit down and have a talk with her
I’m not sure if I’ve been mentally abused. My husband I are having issues and he always blames me for everything. He tells me that I’m not ever going to find someone better than him. He acts nice and then when we get arguing, it’s my fault again as he says that he’s jealous of me, and that I do everything better than he does. Right now it’s good, but I don’t know if I’m on a cycle. Can someone help me understand about love and control?
Your husband is insecure. One way for people to deal with feeling inadequate is to bring others down to their level, which is what your husband is doing., He does not know how to make himself feel better about himself. May with low self esteem think there is nothing they can do to improve themselves. It is often a hard subject to address since people can be very sensitive about what they don’t like in themselves.
Next time he admits to you that he feels you are better, in a loving and caring manner acknowledge how he feels and ask him if he might want to get help to feel better about himself. Tell him the places you feel he excels, where you appreciate his skills and traits.
Then (and most importantly) tell him you do not appreciate when he puts you down, Tell him you are not willing to be treated that way. Ask him how he think you should respond to him when he acts this way. If you feel the relationship is worth saving, also tell him you are willing to help him change, but only if he is serious in changing.
Don;t expect definitive answers immediately. This will be an ongoing discussion. Professional help should make this easier, if he is willing to engage in it. Hopefully he is serious enough to want to better himself
I have been in an emotionally toxic relationship for 10 years. I ended up with some serious physical ailments two years ago when my ex cheated on me while I was sick. I endured hospital visits alone with our children and ended up having to have my Mom stay with me, help me and provide a stable environment for my children. In the past tow years I allowed my ex back in as his life was falling apart, for tow years I remained a confidant, a friend and a person of support. About 5 weeks or so ago I helped him to find a job at the help of a friend. He loved the job and the people and met someone and tossed me aside, again, in a very difficult time in my life. I can’t seem to get back up, somewhere inside there is a semi-confident woman but I can’t even find her. My life was riddled with alcohol and abuse everywhere around me. I never did recover I don’t think and I am in a toxic , sad pattern that I can not get out of:(
When people are in need, their priorities change. Once they are out of need, they go back to how they normally are. You have to make sure you understand this. Your ex already showed you how he normally is during your 10 years together.
The only way you can reasonably expect people to give back to you in your time of need is if you have built a healthy relationship with people who really care for you (which you ex does not).
On your end, this means you do things for people because you care for them or you just want to be helpful, not because you feel you have to help people when they are down or some other socical obligation. You cannot expect people who don’t care or that have little invested in you to give back to you. Again it comes to building relationships. Expectations without relationships are usually disappointments waiting to happen.
To get out of this pattern, you have to make some changes.Find a professional to work with. It will take effort on your part, but it will be worth the effort to make improvements in yourself