Raising Self Esteem
The concept of raising self esteem is often misunderstood. The focus too often goes towards our ability to interact with the world outside. Yet self worth and self esteem are first and foremost about the ability to maintain a healthy relationship with ourselves.
Overcome Self Esteem Issues
Raising self esteem is the ability to emotionally and mentally give self support.
While it feels good to get agreement from others and to have them be in alignment with our ideas and values, it’s not what raising self esteem is about.
Raising self esteem requires a level of self-trust, believing in aspects of ones own capabilities and the ability to focus on ones own needs, ideas and opinions in any given circumstance. They find value in aspects of themselves. By raising self esteem, people become healthier, their immune system is stronger, and their attitude elevates.
Those who have difficulty raising their self esteem and self worth often find themselves
- Feeling less adequate
- Taking things personally
- Unable to recognize their own capabilities and talents
- Unable to connect or align with the world outside. They don’t feel they fit in.
- Feeling misunderstood, isolated or detached.
- Trusting their ability to make decisions
People spend years increasing their intelligence. They spend hours every week in the gym working out their muscles. Yet when it comes to processing thoughts and emotions in a way that elevates self support, they are not sure what to practice or change. The steps to raising self esteem are not always clear because it primarily focuses around the relations the person has with themselves. That idea confuses many.
There are many who believe raising self esteem merely requires a positive thinking, more confidence or a good attitude. It’s a nice start, but on it’s own it’s not going to really change how one has structured the relationship they have with themselves.
Those who suffer from low self esteem want just as much from their lives as anyone else, yet too often they can’t figure out what is stopping them. They unfairly compare their emotional states to the actions of others. They don’t see themselves succeeding (even when others do), yet have no problems imagining or remembering failures. This becomes emotionally inhibiting. There are even those whose self esteem is so low they can no longer imagine themselves as being worthy of feeling good
Take inventory – ask yourself:
- Do you often worry others will react adversely to what you say?
- Do you find it difficult to express your emotions or point of view?
- Do you find the doubt in one area of your life spreading to others?
- Do you constantly compare your achievements to what others have done?
- Do you find yourself avoiding situations where you might fail?
- Do you believe your talents are minimal?
- Do you feel misunderstood?
- Do you feel you have limited choices?
Any of these can hinder self esteem. Who you think you are and the identity you hold will filter into every aspect of your life. The strengths you truly believe in you present yourself to the world. Where you doubt yourself you hold back. Many people mentally see value in themselves, but emotionally can’t support it and it is in our emotions and actions we show the tell tale sign of where our self esteem stands.
Raising Self Esteem – Living Up to Your Own Standards
Self Esteem issues can stem from:
- Trying to live the ideals other people instead of our own
- Having poor role models
- Creating unreachable standards
- Unrealistic view of ones own capabilities
- Being overly focused on our faults rather than the value we can offer
- Emotionally sensitivity – taking things too personal
- Internal conflicts about who we are or what we should do
Assessing where one stands with themselves is not always easy. Yet without a healthy sense of where one stands, without a supportive self esteem, people are more prone to fall into depression, anxiety, OCD and other emotional challenges.
If you’ve tried tapes, books, meditation, positive affirmations, and still find yourself looking for answers, it is time to try something different. At Designed Thinking, we focus your thought process at those places you have held yourself back and do so in a way you can find new methods to be supportive of your own needs.. Our clients have not only moved past old limiting beliefs and emotions, they have not only found a way to ease out fear, they’ve and discovered a whole new world to play in.
Designed Thinking clients have
- Dramatically elevated their self-esteem and self-worth
- Actually experienced the feeling of being complete and whole
- Stepped out from the shell of protection and begun engaging in life again
- Overcome deep emotional challenges
- Embraced their own passion to live life to its fullest
Making changes in oneself isn’t always easy, but staying stuck in a way of being that you don’t like is not only difficult, it can be painful. At Designed Thinking we can help. Call 866-718-9995.