The Misunderstood Emotion
Most people misunderstand the function of anger. While the results are often unpredictable and at times destructive, anger is a neurological signal notifying the person some part of their value system has been violated or hurt. Like all emotions, the signal and its interpretation may not be accurate, but its intent is to provide an energy to support the person in standing up for themselves and their values.
Don’t Internalize anger
The problem comes when the emotion occurs with more intensity then the person can process or the emotion is not allowed some form of release, it is internalized. The more one internalizes anger the more it makes unfair actions or violations feel personal. Those who consistently carry anger this way never really become efficient at dealing with things they don’t like, understand or can’t control.
Without releasing anger they stop themselves from finding resolution. Over time the emotional residue from negative past events or abuse gets trapped and stored both in the mind and body. Unconsciously they teeter at the emotional threshold of discomfort and even minor discomforts may trigger an outburst.
Those who become effective at processing and releasing anger, get the full benefit of this important neurological signal. Anger is a subconscious feedback signal to help evaluate our interactions with the world. This feedback mechanism is neither good or bad. How we are able to process and interpret these messages and whether we react or respond determines the emotion of anger supports or hinders us.
It doesn’t mean the perspective we get when feeling anger are correct or that the emotion should be expressed. But like all repetitive signals, they should not be ignored, because either you find some means to do something about the violation or some part of you needs reinterpret the perspectives you are holding on to. To suppress the emotion creates unresolved stress, which of course can create all sorts of negative outcomes.
These areas need special attention and if we ignore the signals, it can create physiological difficulties. Anger increases our susceptibility to high blood pressure, elevated levels of adrenaline and muscle tension. In the long run, unresolved anger increases the chance of heart attacks, stroke and cholesterol levels. The constant tensing of muscles causes fatigue, stress, headaches, back problems and even affect vision.
Because health issues from anger occur over long periods of time, most disregard the warning signals; continuing to deal with disagreements and adversity inefficiently. Left unchecked, anger supports any number of psychological issues or substance abuse.
Shame is often attributed as an emotion supporting OCD, yet anger can also be a strong contributor to stuck thinking patterns and compulsions. Luckily that which is learned can be relearned. That which is held onto can be released.
At Designed Thinking we hold the emotional states of all clients with the highest regard and believe there are always positive and healthy alternatives available. Our client’s have proved it to us time and time again. Releasing anger and other unwanted emotional responses, making them less personal. If you are serious about changing and ready to explore new ways of being yourself, call our toll free number; 866-718-9995 and explore the options you can have for the rest of your life